The truths that I live by… sound interesting, right? But how did I even come up with this topic? Here comes nothing.
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In the flood of all emails from leaders and business people that you have signed up for, there is once in a while something that sticks out and catches your interest.
Last week I got one of those from a mentor called David Fagan. He hosts online events for connecting business owners to increase joint ventures and help among us – great event, right?
A VERY INTERESTING QUESTION
In his last email he triggered a very interesting question:
“What truths do you live by?”
Shoot. I was stunned for a moment right there.
Most of us probably never thought about this but still, act on some truths we have.
To start it off, he has given 7 truths he lives by. As I start with mine, I realized it’s not that easy to begin with nothing. And while I don’t want to mimic the list he has given, I used it as an inspiration and used it as a template to work from.
HOW DO THESE TRUTHS CONNECT WITH STRESS?
Working with, vs. working against your beliefs
Working in line with your beliefs takes way less energy than trying to go against your beliefs or if you are lost and have no real beliefs.
Working against your beliefs can work for a short while but to a high cost on your inside feelings. It will trigger anxiety and that is part of your stress system raising the hormone levels.
If you continue for a long time, you will eventually be at risk for burnout just the same way as if you have too much to do or do something really hard. Even if the tasks you do in themselves are not difficult – but since they work against your belief, they take more energy than necessary.
WHY HAVING THESE TRUTHS IS IMPORTANT
Not having a goal or belief will make you lost, with no lighthouse to follow and that works in the same system – you get anxious, stress hormones raise and you get the same result.
No matter what, we are set to follow our hearts… and deep inside, I guess we all know that.
THE TRUTHS I PERSONALLY LIVE BY
1. I believe I am born to be a kind soul sharing kindness and calmness around me.
People actually often say they feel so calm with me. Earlier I never took notice of this but since I started my business it has become noticeable for me, and I see it as a good thing
2. I believe my primary role is to care for my family – family first.
That does not mean you just throw everything away when your family needs you. It means you sometimes have to change your priorities
3. I believe I am at my best when I can do things without pressure – because I too can get stressed out.
When I do I become slow, I can’t think and as a result, I can’t make decisions – and if I do I may regret my choices afterward.
4. I believe my biggest gift is that I am a good listener and I have a great sense of empathy being able to see things from other people’s perspectives.
I think this is partly a result of my hard-earned insights when I lost my first baby. Through this, I can get under the surface of people and help them see what is possible and so on. That is why I love to mentor people and to be a speaker because I can share my insights – and I get this great feeling when I see the result.
5. I believe that at some day I will feel that I have found my home on my life’s journey
I don’t mean when I die but where I can feel “this is it” and it is a driving force to me to go on my journey
6. I believe that the universe knows I am here
Need I say anything more than that?
7. I believe it is never too late to start over, to take a turn.
I started my business when I was 55. It has been a roller coaster but I regret nothing.
THANK YOU, DAVID
Thank you, David (the man who has emailed me about this and given me time to reflect on it), for the inspiration and wonderful self-reflection. This was a fun exercise to do. Now it is your turn to play!
What do you believe in your life – what is important for you – what impression do you want to make on your journey?
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