Your mindset. What’s on your mind is what makes your day… What does that mean?
Simply put…
When you focus on the negative, you get more of that – but when you focus on the positive, then you get more of that too.
YOU GET WHAT YOU FOCUS ON
Sounds too simple and cliche, but that’s the reality…
A QUICK MINDSET TEST
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Why did you still see a pink elephant? Because that’s what I told you to focus on, and your mind focused on it.
So what does this tell us?
THINK OF SOMETHING, MOSTLY, IT HAPPENS.
Why? Here’s a simple way to explain that.
When you constantly think about something… It eventually gets into your subconscious. And your subconscious knows your wants, your deep desires. As humans, we are naturally programmed to act on what we want, so when our subconscious knows we want something, we consciously, or unconsciously, find ways to get them.
ALL THE TROUBLES…
But now let’s take all the troubles you are into.
The feeling of despair when you wake up sometimes and you think…
“Today’s gonna be a tough day.”
And all you thought about are the daily hurdles you experience in your day-to-day, even before your day has officially started.
How did you think your day’s gonna go if that’s your first thought waking up?
YOU’LL GET INTO A NEGATIVITY LOOP
By doing that, soon you will eventually get into that negative loop, and it goes fast.
You’re gonna be shocked you’re suddenly down in that rabbit hole.
Because as humans, we are biologically wired to see the problems, as our survival strategy from back then 200000 years ago – life was tough than in Savannah.
WHAT CAN YOU DO?
What you can do instead, is try to admit that it is easy to get into that loop and you feel the strain and life is no fun anymore – and you will feel you have to struggle yourself through the day.
BUT THEN, immediately after admitting that, reverse-engineer your thinking.
Imagine if you do the opposite instead.
REVERSE-ENGINEER YOUR THINKING
The moment you wake up, instead of thinking about the negative things..
Try saying this to yourself instead:
“Today’s gonna be a good day.” – even when noticing your long list of to-dos, just knowing you can conquer them and do them in a structured way will help.
And no you won’t have magic to make all events on that day turn in your favor, but instilling in your subconscious that it’s going to be a good day, will even help you go through hard things with a positive mind because you can be reminded by your subconscious that…
“Hey, remember today’s supposed to be a good day, so don’t let this tiny hiccup ruin that…”
And see how powerful that is.
More affirmations you can say to yourself:
“I look forward to this specific task.”
“This is something to put my teeth in.”
“This is challenging but exciting.”
And watch yourself go through the positive spiral instead of the negative one.
TIPS ON HOW YOU CAN GET THERE:
1. Start a bedtime routine of writing a gratitude book.
– Write 3 things you are grateful for from the day that passed, then write at least 1 thing you look forward to the next day.
– Say “Thank you” after writing and before putting your book away. This will help your mind go into good sleeping mode.
2. First thing to say when you wake up and sit by the side of the bed say “Today will be a good day!” Then take the book and see what you wrote the day before – and feel the good energy from the positive notes.
AGAIN, IT’S NOT MAGIC
As I’ve said, you won’t magically turn all the events in that day in your favor so it’s important to remember that this does not mean that everything is a dance of roses but staying in a positive mode will help you find solutions that never will show up in the negative mode.
GOOD TO SHARE
Oddly enough just today – when I had decided to talk about positivity – I came across an article in Sweden’s largest Magazine for leadership.
It states:
“Optimists get promoted more often. Optimism is an airbag against stress.
All science shows that optimism plays a crucial role in the ability to handle the effects of a rapid pace at work. That optimists also do a better job is one more thing to smile at. Optimists also earn more money.”
So, like I said in the statement of this episode…
“It’s All About Mindset”.
Keep it positive also in the challenges and you will find better solutions. You will get more done.
IT’S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD
One more thing that helps, is that when you realize you cannot do anything about something – know that… It’s not the end of the world. For a pessimist, it could be a world falling apart – but not for you, because you are someone who starts taking action. 😉
To your success and keep smiling,
